“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. LOVE NEVER FAILS.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
There are so many forms of love in the world, how do you know if it’s the real deal? I’m not a love expert by any means, but I can tell you about the Love of God, the Love of Family, Love for my career and what my definition of Love for my boyfriend is.
The past couple of weeks have been an incredibly, yet scary, spiritual ride. God has put the miracles of faith right before my very eyes, and I’m still at a loss as to why He has been so /extra/ showy to me lately. My boyfriend says that he thinks it’s because we are at a great part of our lives; we’re supposed to be here. That could be true, but what about the other way around? Maybe this is His way of telling me to get my head out of my butt and focus more on Him and what He has in store for me, and less of myself. It says in the Bible that God establishes the steps of our paths, but I often forget that when I’m so obsessed with what I want in life. I don’t have an answer for this, but I know that I’m not the only one who has dealt with it. All I can do is Pray, Pray, Pray. Honestly, that’s all any of us can do sometimes. If I’ve learned anything the past few weeks, however, it’s these two things: 1) God’s love is GREATER than any sin that Satan can tempt us with. God’s love is also greater than any sin that we fall for. How gorgeous of a reminder is that?! I have never felt more in love with the Man that created me. 2) I am guilty for depending on other people, rather than myself and The Lord, and I needed to get smacked in the face with a good Bible verse. I have been doing a morning devotional every three days, and God did just that. He lead me to 1 Thessalonians 2:17 and 5:14. “You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will NOT BE DEPENDENT ON ANYBODY.” (2:17) “…be patient with everyone.” (5:14). I need to depend on The Lord, not people that are of this world. When I am feeling down, I need to pray to Him and be patient with others because, hello, it’s obvious that they aren’t going to have the same effect on me that God does. Patience and independence seem to be pretty key in life… I have some work to do.
My family… is amazing. I don’t have any words to even express how in love I am with all of them. I am so blessed to say that my family isn’t just my parents, my brother and my grandparents; it also includes my man and his family, and it’s more than I deserve. There is more love around me with my family than I can say, but it isn’t perfect. We, by all means, are not perfect, but this is what real love is: if something is broken, FIX IT. Whenever a crossroads comes to my family, we face it as a family and do what we need to do. Honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Speaking of family, let’s talk about David, shall we? He seems to be one of my favorite subjects.
My boyfriend, David, and I have been together for three years in March and it has been the greatest time of my life. Honestly, at times, he makes me question my sanity; at other times (more so than not) he makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. I have never been mushy or lovey or whatever you want to call it, but he came around and I became enamored. Now, I have friends that have been with the same guy for years and years and I have friends that want to get married after two weeks of knowing the guy, and then there’s me. I feel like I’m right in the middle of that, so it’s extremely entertaining to hear the differences between all of us. I have a friend that has been inspiring me lately; she’s the one that wants to get married after hardly knowing her guy. She inspires me because she seems BEYOND obsessed (in a good way), and it reminds me that the “honeymoon” phase doesn’t have to die down. I can honestly say that, even three years later, my feelings for David are deeper than they ever have been. The distance between us means nothing to me, because I absolutely die every time I see him. I might sound insane, but at this point, I don’t care. He is my reality when I have my head in the clouds. He is beyond the lovey stuff and keeps me in check when I need it most. You guys… I have found my husband. We can be polar opposites, but it’s what makes us fall back on each other, and I think that’s beautiful. I owe a special “thank you” to my crazy, marriage-obsessed friend for reminding me that love knows no end to happiness. David, if you ever read this: I am IN LOVE with you and everything about you. Everyone else reading this: don’t settle until you find that. Find the person that EXCITES you about waking up on Monday mornings, makes you forget about the past heartbreaks that you’ve been through and loves you because you are flawed! These people DO exist.
Love is not lengthy text messages, nor is it butterflies in your stomach. Love is so much deeper than that. Unfortunately, technology has become SO advanced that it’s easier to just text “I love you” or “Let’s go on a date” rather than talk in person, and I feel like it hurts. I talked to a married friend today, in fact, that described marriage in her eyes. It’s about choosing to love and accept your significant other each and every single day, despite the arguments and disagreements you’re going to face. No love is perfect. There is no such thing as a prince and princess fairytale. Something I’ve learned, though, is that you can create your own imperfect fairytale full of fun and laughter, tears and fights. Embrace the anger and cherish the excitement… There is nothing better than love. It is God’s gift to us, we ought to use it to our advantage.